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Information & Resources for Survivors


If you are in immediate danger, and feel comfortable involving law enforcement, please call 911.

The U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline provides free, confidential, and compassionate support, crisis intervention information, education, and referral services in over 200 languages. Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224, or chat online at

NNEDV’s WomensLaw Email Hotline provides basic legal information, referrals, and emotional support related to domestic violence, sexual assault, or stalking.

The StrongHearts Native Helpline is a free, safe, anonymous, and confidential domestic violence and dating violence helpline for Native Americans and Alaska Natives, offering culturally-appropriate support and advocacy. Call 1-844-7NATIVE (762-8483) or chat online at

If you are outside the United States, Lila.Help lists gender-based violence helplines and NGOs for almost every country in the world.

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Get Help for Yourself or a Friend

Domestic violence encompasses a spectrum of behaviors that abusers use to control victims. The following list includes warning signs that someone may be abusive. If you or a friend experience these behaviors from a partner, remember: it is not your fault and there are advocates waiting to help.

Red flags” include someone who:

  • Wants to move too quickly into the relationship.

  • Early in the relationship flatters you constantly, and seems “too good to be true.”

  • Wants you all to him- or herself; insists that you stop spending time with your friends or family.

  • Insists that you stop participating in hobbies or activities, quit school, or quit your job.

  • Does not honor your boundaries.

  • Is excessively jealous and accuses you of being unfaithful.

  • Wants to know where you are all of the time and frequently calls, emails, and texts you throughout the day.

  • Criticizes or puts you down; says you are crazy, stupid, and/or fat/unattractive, or that no one else would ever want or love you.

  • Takes no responsibility for his or her behavior and blames others.

  • Has a history of abusing others.

  • Blames the entire failure of previous relationships on his or her former partner; for example, “My ex was totally crazy.”

  • Takes your money or runs up your credit card debt.

  • Rages out of control with you but can maintain composure around others.

Abuse is never the fault of the victim and it can be hard for many reasons, including safety, to end the relationship. If you experience these “red flags,” you can confide in a friend or reach out for support from a domestic violence advocate. If you believe a friend or relative is being abused, offer your nonjudgmental support and help.

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